上回講到朋友H參加Lunch Actually的match making服務。H已與第一個對象見面,相信大家最想知道就是那位男士的質素如何吧。為方便起見, 就用K作為男子的代號。

先說K的背景,因為私隱關,我只能很概括的說。K年紀跟H差不多,不算是英俊類型, 是一位自僱人士。

晚飯的氣氛尚算不錯,雙方談工作,談興趣,聊得蠻開心,沒有相對無言的時刻。男方也有提及對之前LA幫他安排的對象的感覺,臨別時雙方交換了名片, K送了H到車站,約會便在此告一段落了。K在晚飯中說過, 之前的飯聚他並沒有跟每位女士都有交換聯絡方法。

我問H對LA的安排感覺如何? 她說K也可說是達到她對LA提出的要求,要就不完善的地方是當天餐廳有點小錯誤。不過從K或其他男會員的評語, 他們都經歷過「錯配」的約會。男性參加LA大部份都需要買10個date的套餐(因為女多男少的緣故? ) 曾有男會員要求對象會說廣東話,卻被安排跟一個只會就英語的外籍女士約會。也有要求身型纖巧的,約會的女生卻體態豐腴。還遇過有女性遲到45分鐘,印象分即時大打節扣。 看來男士在match making的過程中遇到的「波折」比女性多呢。

另外原來參加LA的女性也頗多樣化,我以為參加的女士多為金融界或專業人士如醫生律師,後來聽到男士報料原來各行各業也遇過。

約會後LA會要求雙方為約會給予評語, 評分的範圍如下:

1) Restaurant
How would you rate the restaurant overall? (rating of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest).

2a) First Impressions
Please comment on your date?s?

i. Consideration (punctuality, sensitivity)

ii. Presentation (grooming, dressing, etiquette)

iii. Confidence (demeanor, mannerisms)

2b) During the Date
Please comment on your date?s?

i. Interest Level (eye contact, attentiveness)

ii. Conversation (choice of topics, initiation)

iii. Dining etiquette (if applicable)

2c) Goodbyes

i. Did you exchange contact details?

ii. How long did the date last for? Did the date end positively?

2d) Overall, what aspects did you like or dislike about your date?

2e) How would you rate your overall experience for this date?
(Below average: 1-5, Average: 6, Good: 7-8, Excellent: 9-10)

3) Afterthoughts

i. Did you feel any instant sparks/attraction/chemistry?

ii. Would you consider a second date?
If no, what could he/she have done to change your mind?

4) Follow up on previous matches
Who have you been in touch with? Who have you been on a 2nd date with?

5) Additional Feedback
i. Are there further refinements for your future dates?

ii. Is there any feedback about our service or the restaurant that you want us to know?

至於H跟K的發展如何,就是大家保持聯絡, 但還沒有一個很明確的發展, 想是雙方都沒有令對方一見傾心,但又認為值得再觀察一下看看有沒有發展空間的那種狀態。而且大家往後也還會跟其他對象見面,可能因此不敢做太多明確的舉動吧。不過我也聽過朋友的朋友的例子,說第一次約會後雙方的感覺也很不錯,接著大家也有緊密聯絡,男方不久也正式展開追求,現在二人已正式成為情侶, 沒有再請LA安排餘下的約會了。這一點還是要看緣份。